Children who have experienced trauma may express love in unique ways, shaped by past pain. They might build emotional walls or cling to caregivers due to fear of abandonment. Their love can be complicated by a fear of rejection, leading to mixed signals—seeking closeness but also pushing others away. Often, they test the stability of love by pushing boundaries or displaying challenging behaviors.
How Resource Parents Can Foster Healthy Love:
- Be patient. Healing takes time, and children need to move at their own pace.
- Provide stability. Consistency in routines, rules, and reactions helps build trust.
- Celebrate progress. Acknowledge even the most minor steps towards connection and trust.
- Seek support. Therapists and trauma-informed professionals can provide valuable tools for understanding and navigating these complex dynamics.
Every child is unique, and so is their experience of love. By meeting them where they are, offering understanding, and fostering a safe environment, we can help children with trauma rebuild their ability to give and receive love.
With love,
Jami & Deena
